In article . net, "Dwight
Stewart" writes:

"N2EY" wrote:

I think it's something else, Dwight. I think a big part
of happiness is based on our expectations vs. our
reality. And a lot of us Americans allow ourselves
to develop tremendously high expectations, and
then aren't so happy when they aren't met.

The person who expected to be living in a 4000 sf
house by a certain age may be quite disappointed
that (snip)

In my case, I've never stayed in one place long enough to have those type
of expectations.

Then the house example wasn't a good one for what you are talking about.

Then consider the fan example. Your expectation is that finding a fan which
will not wear out in X hours of use should not require a wide search. You
expect to be able to find one locally without a lot of hassle. But you can't,
and that's a disappointment.

Same principle, different specifics.

I've traveled most of my life (both as a kid and later as
an adult). I'm just in a mood right now to settle down somewhere. The
problem is that I haven't figured out where to settle down at. I haven't
lived in one place long enough to really call it home. My family is spread
out across the country (the same with my wife's family). Because of all
that, we never get to the point of thinking about a house - we're too busy
looking around the country for an area. And that is perhaps where our
expectations are simply too high.

Could be - what is it that you expect?

73 de Jim, N2EY


Sometimes it's a good thing that 'the one that got
away', did.


Been there and done that. We went across the country a few years ago
looking up old friends and the places we once lived. We were shocked at the
many changes (in the people and the places). After that, we decided not to
do so again with the remaining people and places - it's simply best to
remember them in our minds the way they were.