Dave Heil wrote:

...
It can be more like a curse. There's nothing quite like a number of
teachers telling Junior's parents that Junior is gifted.
...
Dave K8MN

WOW, deja vu, I have seen parents beat down children because the lesser
intellect-ed parent feels threatened, lessened, unimportant (and
usually, rightly so)--this is a sorry thing to watch in a workplace. To
watch it occur in a family is nothing less than utterly disgusting.

So much opposed to the wholesome and functional family which devotes all
to the importance of the individual and encouragement of the youngsters
to out achieve the parents ...

Where was/is child protective services when the kids need 'em?

If one is a control freak, keeping silent on these affairs allows one to
keep their illness hidden ... the terms you use are a dead give away.

JS