What makes a person a real ham?

KOHB says
The FCC says this:
=A797.3 Definitions.
(a) (1) Amateur operator. A person named in an amateur
operator/primary station grant on the ULS consolidated
licensee database
If your name is on an unexpired license grant, you're a real ham.

The definition you quoted says"Amateur Operator". There is no mention
of the word "ham"
in the definition.

"Ham" is a label given to certain people with a certain belief system.
"Hams" are a subset of the group of Amateur operators. Not all amateur
operators are "hams".

What makes a person a Ham? There are too many characteristics to list.

Hams like antennas, and Morse code. They usually don't like the
technical aspect of the hobby (except for antennas).

They are often older, and male. They like to use the terminology. They
like to discuss ham politics.

There are other characteristics of a ham, which I will not list.

Is it doing more then 5 wpm code?
Yes, this is absolutely required to be accepted as a ham.

Is it being accepted by certain other hams?
Hams share certain beliefs and characteristics.
Without acceptance, one cannot be a "true" ham.

Could it be the date they were first licensed, or maybe the class of
license they hold now?

Sorry, I do not know or understand the question. As for the class of
licence they hold right now, Morse code is required above the
Technician class. Those in the Technician class can still be hams, as
long as they agree with ham beliefs. One of those beliefs, of course,
is that they will eventually learn Morse code.

Can a person climb to Extra with today's test and be considered a real
ham?
Yes, of course.

Is yodoc aka K3LT a real ham, or the one to determine who is a real
ham?
I don't know.

Can somebody who gets into amateur radio today with the "give away
license" ever be considered a real ham?

The license is a "give away" - no disputing that.

I answered this question above. You are still a ham if you believe, and
will eventually learn Morse code.

Does getting a vanity license that is an older call such as K8*** or
WD8*** make you a real ham?

I don't know.

I didn't take the free upgrade to general, so would this make me a
cb'er
or no coder as the toad says?

I'm not being a troll, I would really like to know the answers to this!

How did you know about the vanity license?